What Black men want

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Love is a universal language that transcends cultural and racial boundaries. However, it’s important to acknowledge that each individual receives love in their own unique way.

When it comes to understanding Black men, meeting their physical, emotional and mental needs is crucial to building meaningful connections with them.

Black men, unlike any other race, are unique to mankind. There is a specific way that they desire to be approached and loved. The portrayal of Black love that we see on sitcoms is nothing compared to everyday reality. The way the media shows Black men is often intended to attract public attention, and most times it’s in a negative light.

When it comes to the topic of dating and maintaining a relationship with a Black man, social media seems to launch a new podcast daily offering relationship advice.

However, none of them seem to be effective. They fail to target what Black men really desire or experience while dating. These podcasts are entertainment-driven and are often confused for reality.

Armon Perry, a graduate student and professor at the University of Louisville, has been searching to discover the disconnect between Black men and women loving one another correctly.

“First, many Black men are not viable marriage mates because their financial struggles will not allow them to provide for a wife and children,” Perry said. “Other studies conclude that many poor Black men reject monogamous romantic relationships in favor of a hyper-sexual masculinity to overcompensate for their inability to fulfill the traditional breadwinner role.”

Before a Black man can express love correctly or be open to receiving love, he must be mentally and financially secure. Many women would agree that when it comes to dating Black men, it’s all about holding him down in tough moments. On the one hand, there are many stories where Black men appreciate this kind of support, but there are others who just want to figure it out alone.

There are numerous factors that contribute to Black men not loving their women correctly. In many cases, some men blame the amount of daily external stress they face, trauma from past experiences, or encountering women who are not genuine. Men want women they can feel safe with without having to always be on guard, share similar values, and not make them relive traumatic experiences.

According to Urban Faith, Black men and their economic disadvantages contribute largely to how they’re displayed to the public. They really just desire for the narrative to be rewritten.

The world rarely hears stories about the type of love Black men want to experience. The focus often remains on their low-income disadvantages. Black men do desire to be loved; it’s just a matter of rewriting the narrative and creating a safe space for them to share it.