Persephone, The Relationship Guru: Happy to be Single

A friend asked me, “Persephone, why is it so hard to get a boyfriend these days? I really want a boyfriend.”

The question took me by surprise. Here is this intelligent, pretty and bubbly girl standing in front of me, asking for advice. It tickled me, but of course, I snapped back to reality.

Most of my girlfriends are looking in vain for a man who will provide a long lasting partnership.

I admit, I do have a boyfriend. However, if I didn’t, I would not stress of over not being in a relationship. Seriously.

Yes, we all want and crave affection; it is natural. But there are many other things to focus on right now.

Most of us girls believe we will find our life long mate in college. We will get married and have our first child around the age of 24 or 25. But the reality is, 24 and 25 is still very young. It is really a year or two after graduation.

We should focus on internships instead of relationships and studying abroad instead of playing house at home or wondering what new boo we can find when we go to “Baja’s” or wherever you go.

Being in a relationship is hard work. Juggling school, PRodigy, ABJ, The Famuan and having a man takes the life out of me.

Don’t get me wrong, I love me some Allen. But Allen can’t guarantee a successful career in the future. Allen can’t land me an internship abroad. He can pay my bills, but that does not mean I want him to, or that I should focus solely on him.

Granted, being in a relationship has its perks, but so does being single.

If you improve yourself, when the time comes for a man, he will have his life together as much as you do.

Most of these men don’t have a clue what they want in a woman, and most of the time we don’t have a clue of what we need in a man.

Whether your future mate is African-American, Caucasian, Hispanic or Asian, you should focus on yourself. True love is at its best when it has been allowed to mature.