Turn Off Your Gaydar – Don’t Assume

Flamboyance, tight clothes and a switch in the hips are all things that some people associate with being gay. If they happen to smack their lips the assumption is that the person has “a little sugar in their tank.”

However, gays also marry, raise children, serve in Congress, play professional sports and lead successful lives. So when you really take the time to think about it, does gay have a look?

Is it really possible to look at someone and conclude that they are gay?

I think not.

Forget gaydar.

Although some may associate certain characteristics with being gay or lesbian, it doesn’t look like anything. I don’t know about you, but I’m having a hard time trying to imagine what that looks like. What happens when someone who may have all the traits that some link with being gay or lesbian and the assumption turns out to be false? That’s stereotyping. That’s a problem.

If someone chooses to identify his or herself as gay that is his or her decision – live with it.

People have a right to practice their sexuality as they choose. It is imperative that the rest of us understand that there is no real way to know who’s gay and who’s not based on how they look or act in public.

Take Rosie O’Donnell, for example: she still looks like a woman, but she is gay. She doesn’t fit into the stereotypical box of being butch or manly. If you are really that concerned with someone else’s sexuality, maybe it is because you are insecure about your own.