Chivalry seems to be on a vacation

Can someone please let me know where chivalry is, because it has been M.I.A. for some time now?

What happened to the days when a guy would call his lady on a regular basis, pick her up and take her out to dinner and a movie, and the thought not even cross his mind for her to pay for anything?

Where is the man who doesn’t have a girlfriend in each state, three more on the side and who would never lie about that other chick?

Maybe they are chilling with chivalry.

Sadly, all I see on FAMU’s campus are boys who call at 2:53 a.m. after they leave the club and finish their parking lot pimping.

The guys who need you to pick them up to go to see a movie and those who inform you that all they’ll have is the water and chicken on the dinner bill.

I feel that the women of FAMU are being “Punk’d”.

“Now I ain’t sayin’ I’m a Gold Digger”, but every now and then, women would like someone to “Cater” to them as well.

Is it too much to take your girl on a date? And with the term “date,” I do not mean sitting on your couch or mine, watching a movie that you rented from Blockbuster.

A date, gentlemen, as explained by Webster’s: An engagement to go out socially with another person, often out of romantic interest. It is that simple.

And say you do make it to a date or two, the next thing you need to do is inform your “date” what your title or lack there of is.

It is hard for some women to distinguish the difference between “talking” and “this is my lady,” so make it clear.

Do not have girls thinking they are “the one,” only to find out that you have a girlfriend back home, another girl you like to “chill” with, and then your ” ‘Oh that’s just my home girl’ girl”.

Just let her know because what happens in the dark always comes to light.

Instead of having her bombarded by calls from random females with blocked numbers asking, “How do you know man?” step up and let her know.

With that being said, I need my ladies to know that good things happen to those who wait.

Even with the disproportional ratio of boys to girls at FAMU, there is no need to settle or lower your standards for anyone.

You can never change a man. Actually, I do not think you can even mold him.

But you always have you (yeah, I know that may sound depressing).

Ladies, if you have to sit there silently while he is on the phone, it isn’t worth it.

If you have to keep your relationship a secret, then, it’s not a relationship.

I cannot put all the blame on the gentlemen, when women let them get away with these foolish acts.

So, it is that simple guys. You respect us and we will respect you. You give a little and we can give a lot back.

Stephanie Lambert is a senior magazine production student from Panama City, Fla. She can be reached at