What happens in the bedroom used to be kept a secret, but recently, discussing intimate details about sex has become the new norm. The conversation of when, where and how people have sex seems to roll off everyone’s tongue. However, having that one-on-one conversation with a potential sex partner about getting tested has become taboo.
Most people are not shy about expressing specifics about their sexual lifestyle, but when it comes to discussing sexually transmitted diseases, all of a sudden faces become flustered.
Asking a potential sex partner if he or she has been tested is difficult. Some are afraid that if they start the conversation, their partner might become offended, assume the person asking has contracted an STD before or it might ruin the sexual moment.
How do you ask a potential sex partner if he or she has been recently tested for STDs?
Don’t Play the Shame Game – Don’t be ashamed to explain to a potential sex partner how much your health means to you. Start the conversation by telling him or her the last time you got tested and the outcome of your results. Being open about your health will make your partner feel more comfortable about expressing his or her last testing experience.
Make a Date Out of It – Ask your partner out on a testing date. You and your partner plan the day and time to get tested together. Places such as the Leon County Health Department offers free rapid HIV/AIDS testing every Wednesday from 1:30-3:30 p.m. The test takes less than 20 minutes. Getting tested is something that won’t occupy your entire day but still allows you to spend time with your partner.
Fun and Games – Getting tested isn’t a laughing matter. A game like “Never Have I Ever” can get the conversation started. This game can help two people learn facts about each other’s sexual history while avoiding the typically awkward sex conversation.
Be Blunt – If all else fails, just ask. Every couple interacts differently. Use your personality to make your needs clear. Explain to your partner that you are not interested in having sex with anyone who hasn’t been tested. Ask the questions you want the answers to, and ask to see your partners testing results.