I once heard a girl say, “I went to high school to find a boyfriend and I came to college to find a husband.”
I find it sweet when I come across married couples that have met in college. I even know some people who were engaged prior to attending college. There’s nothing wrong with thinking you’ve found “The One.” But what happens when you start compromising for love too early?
In fact, one of my friends really thought they found that special someone. She was head over heels in love. I mean she would cook, clean and even stay home while he went out at night. She did everything for him, including his laundry, just because she thought he was “The One.” My friend did just about everything to keep him because she really thought they would get married after graduation. It seemed like she was rearranging her life based on his likings.
My friend was living this life as a “married” woman with no ring. After a year of playing “wifey,” she found out he had been cheating on her six of the 12 months they had been in the relationship.
A lot of students can relate to this situation in some way. Allison Lockard, of Sunshine Manor said she urges students to balance their social life and relationships.
“Relationships should be compromising and complementing for both parties,” Lockard said. “You should not compromise yourself if your significant other is not doing anything to make your life easier.”
As young people, we should get to know ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with doing nice things for a significant other, but there is a major difference between a relationship and marriage. There will be plenty of time for that. There’s no need to rush into things. What is this man or woman going to look forward to if you present everything up front? If things don’t work out, you’re hurt because you feel like you invested so much.
You shouldn’t have to compromise your life at such an early age. If you’re getting the short end of the stick, you may need to rethink some things. If this person really likes or loves you, then you shouldn’t have to change yourself or stop doing things you enjoy.
Brook England is a senior broadcast journalism student from Miami. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.