For those of you who may be out of the loop, March is Women’s History Month.
This is a time when we’re supposed to celebrate the women in our lives. It is also a time when each woman should give herself a pat on the back for whatever she has accomplished.
This is good. Really good. One problem: too many of us -women- are so busy hating on one another that not only will we not celebrate another woman, we are unaware there is a special month to do so.
I live by a little philosophy called truth, so I’m going to break it down, so it will forever be broke.
Ladies, it is not cool for you to belittle other women so that you can make yourself feel better. Seriously, if you find yourself doing that, you need to seek help. You have a self-esteem problem.
Behaving this way is not cute, and it’s not funny.
There are also women who preach sisterhood and unity but as soon as another woman walks into the room, the claws come out.
My advice: get it together and stop being a false prophet.
If you find yourself constantly being hateful towards other women, take a personal time out and evaluate why you do this.
Some women are afraid of competition from other women.
Perhaps to view the other woman as less threatening, they demean her character and tell themselves they are better than she is.
If that’s not your motive, dig deep. It’s in there somewhere.
I recently overheard a young lady telling her male companion that she has no female friends.
She said she’d decided to write off women because she was tired of the hate and bad attitudes.
This is not a solution.
Responding to hate by isolating yourself or becoming hateful only makes you a part of a bad cycle.
This will only cause you to lose out on valuable relationships with women who are compassionate, strong and self-assured.
To break this cycle, you must change your perception. Instead of looking at another women’s success as your failure, look at it as an accomplishment you can learn from.
One of my many affirmations is: I’m not better than anyone else, and no one else is better than me. Try it and see if it works for you.
Perhaps if you think of yourself as being on equal footing with everyone, no one can make you feel small.
Hatefulness is one chain you don’t want to be linked to.
Augustine Rho, 22, is a senior broadcast journalism student from Fort Lauderdale. She is Opinions Editor for The Famuan. She can be reached at rhoblaze@aol.com.