I was talking to one of my male friends the other day, when out of curiosity I asked how many females he had slept with. He boastfully replied “under 20” and then acted as if he should get the saint of the year award.
Had I asked a female that same question and her reply had been the same she would have been thought of as a whore.
Am I missing something? If a guy has sex with a large number of girls, then he’s a pimp.
If he has had sex with a small amount put a halo around him and crown him King Jesus.
On the other hand, if a girl has a large number of guys on her plate she becomes “The Whore”.
Even if she has been selective, nobody cares because it is just what is expected. What chauvinistic pig made these rules?
I’m ashamed to say that there was a time when I actually had this twisted mentality.
Sadly, most people think this way and don’t even realize it.
I’ve decided to go on a mission to put guys out there for the frauds they really are.
I think I’ll begin by sitting on the Set and pointing out guys and running down the list of girls they have messed with.
Then I’ll start rumors about how nasty they are and how everybody’s hit that so stay away.
All jokes aside, I honestly would never do that because I’m not a hater and I don’t have enough time or concern to be bothered. I try not to judge people by their sexual experiences.
My solution really goes back to my first article about minding your business.
People are free to do anything or anyone they please. This whole double standard is a big ball of hypocritical ignorance.
Anyone that feeds into it needs to take a look in the mirror.
How can you expect someone to do what you can’t do yourself?
I actually know guys that have performed every sexual act under the sun and walk around saying they are going to marry a virgin.
So let me get this straight, wallowing in mud affords you the right to have someone pure and clean? Ignorance is truly bliss.
A decision needs to be made, either you think having many partners is acceptable or you don’t.
All of this garbage about it being O.K. for some people and not others is a huge and ridiculous contradiction.
I actually can understand why guys may think this way. It’s beneficial to them because they come out on top either way it goes.
However, the real wonder is why females continue to perpetuate this mode of thinking. Not only do they actively look down upon their own sex, but they also let guys get away with murder.
I don’t advocate judging people because no one is really in the position to do so.
I do feel that if you are going to do it, you should hold everyone accountable for what they do.
Excusing a whole gender for their actions just because everyone else does is silly and it is a practice that needs to end.
Everyone is responsible for the choices that they make and no one person is better for his/her decision than the other.
Cheron Mangum, 19, is a junior broadcast journalism student from Atlanta. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org